How to Become a Good Ballroom Dancer – Winning Competitions – Excelling at Social Dancing

How can I become a better dancer?

The simple answer is that you’ll need to find the right approach custom-tailored by you (to yourself) in order to become a better dancer, or anything else you may aspire to do or become for that matter. With that being said, let me share my thoughts and rants on how to generally improve your dancing skills, become a better dancer as a whole, and perhaps a more fulfilled person, too! 😉

Establishing a Positive Identification and Perhaps a Little Obsession with your Goal:

As you may have guessed, this post is not only about dancing, but it is also about self-evaluation, setting goals, critical introspection, desire, will power, vision, and appetite for live, but don’t let me scare you, just yet, read on and share your own stories!

At this stage you will want to decide for yourself how important your goal is to you, and how committed you are to your goal to become a better dancer or whatever else it may be that drives you to want to become a better dancer.

Stage 1: Setting your Goals

So, you’ve decided that becoming a good ballroom dancer is important to you. This is good because you already know what you want, which means that you have a goal to achieve. It’s really important to always keep sight of your goals in check.

Stage 2: Getting there

Now, if you are serious about your goal, then it’s a matter of doing a proper assessment of where you are in terms of your current dancing ability, and putting a proper plan in place to help you accomplish your goal.

The good news is that with enough discipline and luck, becoming a good dancer can be as simple as selecting and following the right path to accomplish your goal. On the flip side, if you are not serious, or if you become distracted, then your goal may forever remain outside of your reach. Therefore, you will want to make sure that becoming a good ballroom dancer is something that you really care and are passionate about to put the time and emotional, as well as financial resources to help you accomplish your goal.

Before we identify the specific steps you will have to take to become a better dancer, let’s further examine what becoming a better dancer really means. Then, you will have to ask yourself what becoming a good dancer actually means to you. You may also want to dig a little bit deeper and ask yourself “Why do you want to become a better dancer?”. Having that answer to that question, and putting things into a perspective can actually help to make your goal easier to accomplish.

The two types of dancers:

There are two types of dancers in the world of ballroom and Latin dancing; social and competitive dancers. If your goal is to become good in terms of dancing socially, then I would advise you to learn how to lead a lady in such a way that it feels effortless and fun to her. If you’re a lady wanting to become a better follower, then you will need to learn how to follow a man’s lead in such a way that it feels good to you and your partner.

Learning curve:

Your learning curve will largely depend on your learning style and the amount of time you dedicate to learning and practicing your leading, or following skills. Keep in mind that for some people learning how to dance can seem easy and natural, while it may seem daunting and challenging to others. Everybody has a different level of ability and talent, which will largely determine the amount of time that it will take you to become a good social or competitive dancer.

Becoming a better social dancer guide for a man:

If you’re a man who wants to become a better social dancer, then chances are that you fall into one of the following categories:

The more common, First Type: You’re a single guy, and you want to meet some new, fun, and exciting people such as beautiful women who are fun-loving and like to dance. Indeed, many women will agree that there is no more attractive man than the one who can handle a lady on a dance floor with class and style. The rationale is simple, you make a girl feel-good and she falls in love with you.

Yes, meeting new people through social ballroom dancing can be great. It’s becoming trendy, popular and attractive. It can also be fun, and even if you do not meet somebody right away, you will still have the opportunity to interact with many different people and perhaps boost your confidence, and improve your self awareness in terms of gaining a better understanding of your own body from moving through the space to the music. If you’re a shy person, you will also have a unique opportunity to learn to be more social, and gain more confidence in your interactions with people in dancing circles.

Thus, if meeting new people is your goal, you will want to make that good first impression, and continually maintain that good image of yourself in the eyes of people in your dancing community. So, have fun, be a little crazy, but not too crazy if you get my drift.

Make sure you always look good, feel good, and smell good before you set a foot onto a dance floor! Get a good haircut (if you have any hair that is, I am loosing mine, haha!), some nice and well fitting clothes, and a good pair of street and dancing shoes that actually fit you well. Becoming a good social dancer does require some investment of time and money on your part, and investing in the way you look and feel is the least you can and should do for yourself!

Friendly Tips for a Newbie Dancer, a Male-type who is Aspiring to Meet and Impress all the Ladies with his Dancing Skills and Charm


Let me humor you: For all of you desperate, single lads out there, put your immediate goal of meeting that perfect woman in a dance class or a social dance aside for a moment :) (To tell you the truth, you never know, I met my wife at a Social Salsa Dance! – Took her of the market on her first real night out in Boston! 😉 ), and instead go there with the goal of actually learning how to dance, while also enjoying the journey. Trust me, you will have fun in the process as well as get to meet a lot of other fun people who like to dance. Be serious about learning, but do not appear “too eager”, because you will want to maintain that “aura of mystery” about yourself. 😉 Remember, you’re doing it for the ladies, but you do not want to be too obvious about it, right?

Further, do not appear “too eager” to meet new people at a social dance or a class. After all, you are there to learn to dance. Let socializing happen naturally! Of course, you should be friendly and polite, but perhaps “not too friendly” until you feel comfortable. You will want to get a good feel for your environment and feel comfortable internally before you jump into the whole socializing business. But, if a nice lady chooses to approach you at a dance class or a social event, and be friendly to you, there is nothing wrong with being friendly back. – You could always make some friends, or even find a dance partner. With that being said, don’t just sit there and play the waiting game, if there is someone you really want to dance with, go for it! As the old saying goes, No Guts, No Glory. Remember guys and gals, courage is not the absence of fear, but rather it’s doing what you need to do in the face of fear, doubt, and adversity!

Words of Wisdom you will Ignore: Have a long-term strategy in mind and remember that, if you keep a low profile, then eventually you will actually become a better dancer without blowing your cover, and that will give you a chance to actually impress the ladies not only with your dancing, but also with your character and who you are as a man.

It’s truly irresistible to see a man who came, saw, and conquered. Even if it’s only the art and challenge of ballroom dancing, which is something that most men are too shy to try in the first place!

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